So far 2011 has been a great year. My brother just started college as I’m about to graduate from college this December, my dad celebrated is 50th birthday (or as I like to call it his half a century birthday), and apparently Beyoncé is pregnant. For my father’s birthday, we went to Bailey’s Grille in Cedar Hill, Texas; a comfortable atmosphere with tasty food and affordable price. My family and I had a great time, except for the random wedding reception in the middle of the restaurant. We could not figure out the reason the reception was not held in a private room, but everyone has there own preferences.
The hairstyle I tried to emulate this week is the Braid-up from Chescalocs. Instead of braids I wanted to do twist, but came up with a different hairstyle. I will be posting some steps to get this look. Leave any questions in the comments or email at email@example.com. Thanks for reading!
Am I the only one who has had difficult situations lately. When I write about difficult situations I don’t mean financial troubles, I’m just referring to being forced out of my comfort zones. For example, as a result of my internet not working, instead of being in my quiet room writing, I have to do it in a noisy library (yes noisy library, you read right) while on a time limit.
Lately, I have been trying to be content with what I have. This is hard when I’m use to certain things. I’m so privileged (not to be mistaken with rich) that a trip to the library annoys me. My goal is to get to a point where no matter what the situation I am content.
One area that I have reach that point is with my hair. Being happy with my hair was not an easy journey. I’ve had good hair days in my eyes where others would tease me about it; good hair days where people gave me compliments; and worse hair days where I felt like I would rather die than go out with my hair looking the way it did. Now, no matter what, even on days when I feel my hair looks ‘bad’, it doesn’t effect my mood. One practice that has helped me with my hair is positive affirmations. I tell myself my hair is beautiful and lovely.
It took me years of positive affirmations to be comfortable with my hair. At the same time, I think it will take some time for me to be content in any situation. Contentment does not mean comfortable or happy. Instead, contentment has to do with satisfaction and acceptance of the situation. In situations to practice positive affirmations like I did with my hair, I attempt to think about abilities instead of limitations. Sounds like something from a self-help book doesn’t it? Well, it worked with my hair, why wouldn’t it work with in ‘difficult’ situations. What about you, what do you do to either accept yourself or over come hard times?
I haven’t posted anything in about a month, but it doesn’t feel that way. There is nothing that has kept me from posting except pure laziness. I don’t know about you, but procrastination has been the choice I opted for lately.
I felt guilty during this break. I had to question if becoming a writer is something I really want to do or something I am forcing myself to do. I learned from Steven King‘s book On Writing, that if I have a passion for it, then it wouldn’t feel like a chore. Blogging hasn’t felt like a chore, it’s just that sleeping for half the day and watching movies for the other half has been more appealing. Lately, I just haven’t had inspiration. My lack of inspiration caused me to really wonder if I was fit to be a writer.
King did write about a fairy tale like creature he called the muse who is supposed to bring inspiration. The topic of inspiration came up on Sunday at church when my pastor, Deron Cloud, asked everyone to stand up if they have been procrastinating. I was surprised to see all the people who stood up. I realize that I was not alone in the way I felt. The last thing he told us was to write a list of the things we wouldn’t do and start doing them. He said “stop waiting for inspiration because you won’t get it!” King wrote something similar, prompting readers to write and not wait for “the muse” because he/she doesn’t show up often.
Right now I feel more inspired to get something to eat, particularly to go to the mall and get some snicker doodle cookies. Instead, I choose to do one of the things on my “don’t feel like it” list. Although I haven’t felt my muse in a while, I do enjoy writing. Besides school papers, writing doesn’t feel like a chore to me. Just because I don’t feel my muse everyday doesn’t mean I should reconsider my career. I am just going through a normal phase in life when I have to push past “I don’t feel like it” and just do it.
Today I leave you with this, as Deron told us to write a list and start doing it, I tell you the same thing. Stop waiting for your muse because he/she will probably not show up anytime soon.
Dr. Natural aka Jahmella Simmons
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